How to Feel Better During the Holidays: Expert Tips for Navigating Stress, Loneliness & Overwhelm
The holidays are often painted as a season of joy, connection, and celebration. But for many of us, (including me), this time of year can also bring up stress, overwhelm, and even loneliness. Whether you’re navigating family dynamics, managing grief, or simply trying to keep your head above the tide of obligations, it’s okay to feel less than festive.
As a seasoned psychotherapist based in San Francisco, I’ve worked with countless individuals and couples who struggle with this very issue. Here are some practical tips to help you not just survive but thrive this holiday season.
1. Honor Your Boundaries (and Say No Guilt-Free!)
The holidays come with a lot of “shoulds.” You should go to every event. You should host the perfect dinner. You should spend on lavish gifts. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to do it all.
Practice saying no: “Thanks for the invite, but I can’t make it this time.”
Schedule downtime: Block off time for yourself like you would for an important meeting.
Boundaries are a radical act of self-care.
2. Create Moments of Connection
Loneliness is especially common during the holidays, even if you’re surrounded by people. The key is to seek authentic connection rather than just filling up your calendar.
Reach out to a trusted friend or family member for a meaningful chat.
If you’re in San Francisco, consider joining a community event, mindfulness class, or even scheduling an in-person therapy session to process your feelings in a supportive environment.
3. Focus on Embodiment Practices
When stress or anxiety takes over, it’s easy to get stuck in your head. Movement can help:
Try Dance Your Bliss or another expressive movement practice to reconnect with your body.
Go for a walk in nature. San Francisco’s Presidio and Golden Gate Park are magical this time of year.
4. Address Tension in Your Relationships
The holidays often magnify challenges in romantic relationships. If you’re navigating conflict, couples therapy can be a game-changer. In my work with high-conflict couples, I focus on creating a safe space to rebuild connection.
Schedule a session to get tools for smoother communication.
Remember: Disagreements are opportunities to grow together.
5. Be Kind to Yourself
Perfection is not the goal. Whether you’re grieving, stressed, or just plain tired, give yourself permission to feel how you feel.
Create small rituals: Light a candle, journal your thoughts, or practice mindfulness.
Reach for compassion: What would you say to a friend going through the same thing? Say it to yourself.
Need Extra Support This Holiday Season?
If you’re in San Francisco or prefer virtual sessions, I offer psychotherapy and couples therapy tailored to your unique needs. Whether you’re struggling with stress, conflict, or feelings of isolation, help is just a call away.
Let’s make this season one of healing, connection, and hope.
